Children's Mental Health Awareness Day
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05/10/2012 2:35 PM |
In celebrating this National
Children’s Mental Health Awareness Day, I tip my hat to
all of those adults who are working to see beauty in the lives of children,
especially those living in the midst of adversity and pain. I also want to
honor the children, who are changing our lives as much as we are helping them
change their own.
I have been fortunate to have learned from
many amazing children. Two preschool students, “Jorge” and “Goddess,” especially,
helped me to see that even in the midst of very messy lives, there is much
beauty and strength. As my first clients while training to become a mental
health counselor, they helped me find room in my
heart that I did not know existed. Rather than trying to “save” or
change these children, they taught me that my role was to support their own
inherent strengths. They challenged me to recognize them as individuals who
were fighting to live, as opposed to failing to thrive. As I began to see these
things more clearly in Jorge and Goddess, they and those around them began to
see them more clearly as well.
Across my work as a teacher,
school-based mental health counselor, and researcher, I have observed that the
children most difficult to like almost always receive the worst treatment from
peers and adults. Frequently,
these children are the ones who are fighting to live—watching their backs and
keeping others at a “safe distance.” Perhaps this is the most devastating
consequence of maltreatment or an otherwise messy life—if one is poorly loved,
it is difficult for one to know how to be loveable. As well, if one is raised
by a depressed or absent caregiver or in a violent neighborhood, one may never
have learned to manufacture or recognize laughter. These children who would
most benefit from drawing others close to them, have only learned to keep them
away.
Through my work with such children, I have
observed that as they become more trusting, they frequently become more
outwardly focused, less temperamental, and share more positive emotions. Soon,
they begin to receive more positive attention from teachers and peers, building
social emotional skills through interactions with them. Similarly, as their
teachers begin to see these children in a more positive light, I have noticed
that they often begin to enjoy them more, feel hopeful that they might make a
positive difference in the child’s life, and gain energy from their love and
affection. Indeed, it is the mutual transformation that occurs between children
with messy lives and the important relationships in their lives that inspire
and sustain a network for them—greatly improving their future prospects.
Travis Wright, Ed.D
Assistant Professor of Educational Research
Director, The GWU Resilience Project
The George Washington University Graduate School of Education and Human
Development